i love everything about tomatonation.com. The Vine letters are awesome and Sars' responses are excellent. there are other fun bits, like movie and book reviews and essays written by Sars. i came across her essay "25 and Over" today. while reading it i kept thinking about how i wish more people knew how to behave properly! the world would be so much better! it is sad that people need to be told these things, really. but here is one particular tidbit that made me go "YES! YES, EXACTLY! Come on people, get it together!"

Give and receive favors graciously. If you have agreed to do a favor, you may not 1) remind the favoree ceaselessly about how great a pain it is for you, or 2) half-ass it because the favoree "owes you." It is a favor; it is not required, and if you cannot do it, say so. If you can do it, pretend that nobody is watching, do it as best you can, and let that be the end of it. Conversely, if you ask for a favor and the askee cannot do it, do not get snappish. You can manage.

couldn't have said it better myself.